I Didn’t Get A Castle… I Built A Kingdom (Part 1)

“How I went from childhood dreams of royalty to finding purpose in real-life resilience.”

Have you ever woken up and realized…
“Wait a minute… this is NOT where I thought I’d be at this BIG age?”

Because BABY… same.

My life looks nothing like what I imagined. And trust me, we are not about to unpack all of that in one blog because we’d be here all day. So, we’re breaking this down into parts… and this right here? This is Part 1.


I remember standing in front of my kindergarten class, bold and confident, telling everybody,
“When I grow up, I want to be a princess.”

And let’s be real… isn’t that every little girl’s dream?

Now if I’m being honest… I never outgrew that dream. Not even a little bit.

And being an only child? Oh yeah, that definitely didn’t help. I was used to everything being mine. My toys, my space, my world. Sharing? Optional.

So naturally, I carried that princess mindset right on into adulthood. In my head, life was supposed to come with a crown, a castle, and a “happily ever after” package deal.


But alongside my fairytale dreams… there was always poetry.

I’ve been writing since I was FIVE.

Like, real deal. Competitions, awards, district showcases… I was OUTSIDE (but in a poetic way). My dream was to become a traveling poet, going around the world sharing pieces of my heart.

But then… reality and other people’s opinions stepped in.

“You can’t make money from poetry.”
“That’s not practical.”

And just like that, my BIG dream started shrinking… getting picked apart by small-minded thinking until it slowly faded into the background.

Now don’t get it twisted, I didn’t lose it completely. I am a published author of two poetry books: Heaven’s Soundtracks and Hell’s Lyrics (available on Amazon).

But still… that original dream? It changed.


Then there’s this other part of me…

The part that has always wanted to help people.

I didn’t always know how, and let’s be real, sometimes I’m still trying to help myself,

Because navigating life after going through a deep, dark depression?
BABY… that’s a journey all by itself (we’ll talk about that in another blog).

But one thing I know for sure, this world is hurting.

People are stressed, depressed, overwhelmed, underpaid… just trying to survive.

Kids? They’re out here looking for love, attention, and someone to just listen.

And no, I’m not perfect. I’m not anybody’s savior.

But I do know that I have a heart, a voice, and a calling to be part of the solution.

That’s when it clicked for me,
I want to be a therapist.

Not just any therapist…
A youth therapist.


Now fast forward to today…

I’m still a princess at heart (especially living in a house full of men, please send help).

I’m still writing poetry, it will forever be one of my first loves.

And I’m still on this journey toward becoming a therapist.

I graduated in May 2025 with my Associate’s in Psychology… with FIVE kids, a husband, and a full-time job.

Let me say that again for the people in the back
FIVE. KIDS.

And guess what? I’m going back to school in August.

Am I excited?
No.

Are these degrees going to get themselves?
Also no.

So here we are.

And yes… I do charge for this wisdom, so that’ll be $150.
(I’m playing… but not really)


So, what’s the point of all this?

Life doesn’t always go the way you planned.

Should you have a plan? YES.
Will it go exactly that way? ABSOLUTELY NOT.

There will be detours. Delays. Plot twists you didn’t ask for.

But you only get ONE life.

So, you have to choose to live it. With hope, with faith, and with a little bit of humor… because these days? Whew. We living in some times.


So, no… I didn’t become the princess I imagined.

But I did become the woman God intended.

And this life?

It may not look like a castle…
but it looks like a masterpiece.

It’s still being built.
Still being shaped.

A little messy in some places…
a little beautiful in others…

But it’s coming together.

And guess what?

This is only PART 1.


If this spoke to you, drop a comment below or share it with someone who’s learning how to rebuild after life didn’t go as planned.

And don’t forget to subscribe… because Part 2?
Yeah… it’s about to get REAL.

2 responses to “I Didn’t Get A Castle… I Built A Kingdom (Part 1)”

  1. Darren Johnson Avatar
    Darren Johnson

    This spoke VOLUME. It was so much good information and tips for me add into my life. For a minute there I thought this was a message sent just for me. Very great read, and very great message. I look forward to part 2. Thank you .

    1. I am glad you enjoyed it, thank you for the comment 🙂

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